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I so relate to not being normal. Menopause has sure helped me feel okay about it though! No longer have the hormone of giving-a-shit 😂

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Something to look forward to, I think I am just setting out on that phase, my worst symptom is anxiety, swapping that for the “I don’t give a shit” hormone sounds good!

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Jun 13Liked by Gillian & Li'l Bean

I hear you! I, too, lost the give-a-shit hormone (love that) and good riddance! May we embrace our authentic, wise and weirdly ways.

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The menopause educator jane hardwicke Collins refers to oestrogen as the hormone of accommodation. Accommodating others, that is. 😂

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Jun 13Liked by Gillian & Li'l Bean

Who even invented the word normal? It's such a normal sounding word LOL

My glimmers today is that the waves on the winter sea look like aquamarine flavored jelly. 🤩

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You are right it is such an ordinary word! The sea sounds amazing. Xo

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Completely relate!! Oh my, i think about this often. I’m guessing you may have already come across the book ‘The Myth of Normal’ by Gabor Mate and Daniel Mate? i think you will enjoy it x

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The book is on my radar, Ali, but I haven’t read it yet. Good to know you recommend it. Thanks xo

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Jun 13Liked by Gillian & Li'l Bean

Thank you, Gillian. What a wonderful post! I also struggled with not being normal. Thank you for being you!

My glimmers today:

- brainstorming verbs and nouns for a diamonte poem with two children on the theme of space (it was really fun!)

- three children decided to come sit with me at lunchtime because they didn’t want their new teacher to be sitting on their own (how sweet is that!?)

- early morning ferry ride with my partner

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I think all the best people are not normal! Your glimmers are so lovely. I’m guessing you are a teacher? Primary school? Are you at a new school? The inherent awesomeness of kids is always a glimmer. xo

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Jun 14Liked by Gillian & Li'l Bean

Yes, children always bring glimmers! I'm a Montessori teacher and about to start at a new school. I also teach dance. I saw the most amazing improvised duet this week from two boys. They completely blew me away. x

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How cool! I love that there are alternative schooling systems playing with different visions of education. Your dance teaching is also wonderful. I’ve never been an intuitive dancer (well, probably after age 5). I am way too self-conscious and got my free-flowing movement drummed out of me by ballet lessons as a kid where things were either right or wrong. It's probably a place I should explore as 48 year old- I think there is some freedom to be had there! I also hope you need to take a ferry to work every day at your new job! xo

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Jun 16Liked by Gillian & Li'l Bean

I can relate re: ballet and right/wrong as I grew up with ballet. I really struggled with improvisation when I studied contemporary dance at university. I write and speak a lot about it through my dance work as I feel so passionately about the need for freedom in movement. I think Rumi's words "Out beyond the ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there's a field, I'll meet you there" applies to this aspect of improv and freedom in movement.

If you are interested, I recently did a podcast interview: https://www.allthingsmontessoripodcast.com/podcast/episode/4920a22b/kei-ikeda-returns-incorporating-dance-into-the-montessori-classroom

I also write blogs: https://www.montessoridance.com.au/blog

xo

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I’ll look forward to checking out your links - thanks! The part of dance I really struggled with is the memory of the choreography. My dyslexic brain really struggles with sequence memorisation, so any organised dance was really stressful, especially performance, as I would be guaranteed to get my left or right turn wrong. You are making me think about dance in my life and how it isn’t present anymore but was a big part of me growing up - I actually studied for a year at an Indonesian traditional dance school as part of a student exchange - that was a complicated experience for so many reasons - tall white queer teenager coming into classes with small petite Indonesians who had been studying dance for years - formative I think you call it! I like the idea of a dance field where I could just move as me. Thank you for planting the seed. xo

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Jun 19Liked by Gillian & Li'l Bean

Learning choreography and steps can be really challenging. I find it harder as I get older!

Your experience in Indonesia sounds very impactful. Wow.

I hope you can bring some dancing back into your life. A dance around the lounge room often fills my cup. x

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Jun 13Liked by Gillian & Li'l Bean

What a great quote! I will be reminding myself that normal is a tiny box in which to live ❣️

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Yes, I will do well to repeat it to myself too!

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Jun 16Liked by Gillian & Li'l Bean

Love this quote! Proudly ND weirdo here, normal is boring!

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Yay the ND weirdos!

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Jun 13Liked by Gillian & Li'l Bean

Loving the frosty, sparkly mornings, too! Little diamante chandeliers everywhere :-)

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Absolutely! The ice formations yesterday were really cool.

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Jun 13Liked by Gillian & Li'l Bean

I too was called weird rather frequently as a child, usually by other children. I hated it at the time, but it turns out they just meant ‘creative’.

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Yes! Long live the weirdos! So glad to have you here :)

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